Are you above or below the situation or weather? Day 21 of 40 DAYS OF GROWTH
From Friday 19th January, everyday for 40 days, I will be sharing something each day that has either (1) changed my way of thinking or perspective, (2) helped me get through a challenging period of transition, change or growth, or (3) changed my life for the better. I've called it '40 Days of Growth'. I'd love it if you followed along with me on this journey - contributing what has also helped you to learn, grow and change. And, if I can support you on your own learning journey, please do let me know 😃
Are you Above or Below the Situation/Weather?
Day 21 of 40 DAYS OF GROWTH
It seems like this blog is perfectly timed with the weather in Wellington turning dramatically bad over the next 18 hours or so (good ol' Tropical Cyclone Gita!) While I'm not saying that bad weather is something not worthy of whingeing about - when it's really bad, sure, get the whinge out of your system. What I'm suggesting in this blog post is that there are useful tools for dealing with the situation in a more productive way (that are also better for your overall well-being and life satisfaction).
Does how good or bad your day is depend on the weather, or what season it is?
How can you have a 'good day' even when the weather is pouring cats and dogs outside? Miaow.
Essentially, there are techniques and ways of thinking to not let bad weather totally ruin your day. I'll share one of my favourites below :)
Being ABOVE or BELOW the situation
Eckhart Tolle talks about people being 'ABOVE THE SITUATION' or 'BELOW THE SITUATION'. A key example (relevant to today) is a rainy day. One person may think "Oh darn, it's raining, therefore it's going to be a bad day" and they carry this thought throughout their day. It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Another person may think "Oh, that's a shame, it's raining. I'm just going to need to take my umbrella and rain jacket with me today". Today, I looked out the window, saw that it was raining, took a few deep breaths and then thought of something to look forward to later in the day: a nice hot lunch of soup somewhere to warm me up, co-hosting an event later in the day about mindfulness for a group of 40 or so HR practitioners and then catching up with a friend for a date. Can you see how your thoughts about a situation/weather makes a difference to your overall enjoyment of the day?
Other Techniques and Tools
I wrote more about what techniques and tools I have up my sleeve for when I'm or others are going through challenging times in this blog (about coping with grief and loss) and this blog (in answer to the #1 question I'm been asked).
Questions for You
Is this technique useful for you? How do you cope with less-than-ideal days or challenging situations? I'd love to hear from you in the comments below!
Stay safe and dry today, Wellington!